School Year Recap

Well, we did it!  We finished off our third year of homeschooling and the thought of writing up a recap brings all types of emotions up within me. Looking over the year as a whole, I am reminded of the peace and joy we encountered, yet, if I take off my rose-colored glasses, I remember enduring one of the hardest seasons in homeschooling thus far.  I went through the real-deal homeschool "burnout" from March until May and I'll be honest, it was a hard rut to get out of.

I wanted to give a recap to those who are wondering what unschooling looked like for us in this past year as well as document some of our memories.  Prior to starting the school year, after some time in prayer, the Lord gave me the word "BOLD" to describe our upcoming year. I wasn't sure how that would apply to unschooling as it seemed quite the opposite, but as the year progressed, the purpose of the word became more and more clear. 

I also had prayed about opportunities for the children, as experiencing life outside the classroom is such a big part of unschooling. The Lord had prompted us to introduce instruments to the two older boys.  I hadn't put much thought into music as neither Jason or I play instruments, but we budgeted a way to make it happen, and my goodness, it's been a complete blessing having live music in the house!

When Carter had discovered the news of his very own violin coming in the mail, he requested that we head to the library so he could check out books pertaining to music.  The morning after our library trip, I had found a sheet of paper with diag…

When Carter had discovered the news of his very own violin coming in the mail, he requested that we head to the library so he could check out books pertaining to music.  The morning after our library trip, I had found a sheet of paper with diagramed bass clef and the treble clef bar lines, all of the appropriate notes, and several music theory terms and definitions written down. It blew me away, but it was confirmation that he was ready and his heart was excited.  As soon as the violin arrived he started playing and he hasn't stopped.  He's amazing. He will walk into the room and play a song he had just read the music to, already memorized and ready to perform!  Jason and I, in multiple situations, have just looked at each other in awe of this child.  God is so good.  He knew what he was doing when nudging us to introduce music.

I wasn't expecting Everett to take off with music in the same way his brother did. I was right and wrong in the best of ways.  While he is not as interested in perfecting the technicalities, he has this amazing heart of worship and a beautiful …

I wasn't expecting Everett to take off with music in the same way his brother did. I was right and wrong in the best of ways.  While he is not as interested in perfecting the technicalities, he has this amazing heart of worship and a beautiful voice.  Everett has started worshipping on one of our rotating worship teams at church and has even been singing solos on stage. The worship leader, a dear friend, has noticed his gift of worship and has been pouring into him.  She encouraged us to continue investing into this gift as we all know the Lord is going to use it change hearts for Him! Everett also chose to be baptized in May, which was completely prompted by him - another example of being BOLD this year.


From an educational perspective, removing all of the traditional expectations of academic responsibilities and requirements, and just trusting in the children's natural desire to learn, took a giant burden off of me and I was able to sit back and watch their interests flourish.  I started viewing my role as a partner, rather than a teacher, and just supported them in their own journey.  

As a partner, basically my job was to introduce resources that supported their interests and provide materials that enriched their learning threads, which worked well, because I like researching and I like materials. When an interest would arise, we would go to the library, check out books, watch documentaries, purchase games or helpful resources, and notebook about the information we were learning.  While most of the subjects we visited were gratifying to me, we did get stuck on a few subjects that were not (this was hard for me!).

For example, the children researched dogs for a good three months. I offered other literature to keep their plate a bit more balanced and hopefully spark something in them to divert their studies, but overall, their main interest was dogs. It took that subject and the length of it's duration for me to really see how organic education works, maybe because I had no interest in it and I had to follow their lead a bit. I'm not sure, but in the process, they managed to research characteristics of breeds, which led to geography, followed by history and then finished with genealogy.  

When they were figuring out cross-breading, my role as their partner was to introduce the concept of genetics and show them how the Punnett Square can determine probability. Don't be too impressed, I totally forgot about all of that stuff and had to research it myself, but that's the beauty of learning alongside your children. Countless charts of dog characteristics, books about dogs, and reports on dogs were written during this period and by the time I was able to get them to move onward, I had notes showing all of these impressive learning threads that were taking place. I grew quite confident that all standard "traditional" subjects were covered in their learning, with the bonus of them being mentally and emotionally invested.  

Having researched unschooling prior to actually committing to it, I had learned of the cognitive benefits of following one's interests.  When one is interested in a particular subject, their dopamine levels rise, causing long term memory accessibility (which explains why we don't remember much of what we learned in school!). You can hear about that connection and more statistics on unschooling from my Wild + Free talk last conference....listen to episode 5 if you're interested (it's free!).


We continued our Morning Collective, which is where we connect as a family and read a lot of good literature. Rather than controlling or assigning what the children read in their personal quiet time, I allowed them to choose for themselves.  They were very predictable: Carter read just about every juvenile fantasy book in our library, Everett finished every Gary Paulsen book and numerous pioneer-time novels, and Scarlett fell in love with Marguerite Henry, because...horses.  

In all honesty, my hope was that by removing requirements from them, they would become these little voracious readers that couldn't quite put a book down. In all reality, they typically read only when it was quiet time or at night in bed. Throughout the day when we weren't reading as a collective, notebooking, or if they weren't outside, they would spend time as a group pouring over encyclopedia/ fact-based type books. Not my preference, but certainly crowd favorites in this household. Some of the books that are pulled out constantly are Picturepedia, The Dog Encyclopedia, National Geographic Family Atlas, MAPS, and The Animal Book. The good news about them reading such books is that I didn't have to. And they truly learned how to research without using the computer, which I don't believe I even know how to do anymore. 

A big portion of our winter was spent skiing. The children counted that we skied 31 times! Oh my word. No wonder we summer school. My favorite part was picking up other homeschooled kids on the way, listening to audio books, watching them read in the lodge during lunch, and hearing them sing hymns on the lifts.  Often times the older kids had free reign over the mountain and I would challenge them to make new friends and ride on the lifts with strangers.  Because no other kids were on the slopes mid-week, they ended up riding with random adults who held interesting jobs and had stories to tell. I loved finding out who they met and their stories and enjoyed encouraging them to "network" and share the love of Jesus through listening. #Peopleskillz

Let's talk homeschool "burnout". This was my first year experiencing burnout to a heightened intensity. I almost felt depressed (my mom will be disappointed in me for speaking that word--sorry Mom).  Guilt, inadequacy, fear, frustration; these were daily emotions that were real. I found myself on my knees quite a bit, praying to the Lord for contentment or encouragement. Looking back, knowing that it was a heavy winter and we didn't have much sun, I can see that there was some sort of correlation, but regardless, it was hard and I wanted to throw in the towel. I had to look back on my homeschool vision a few times to remind myself why we have chosen such a route. We pressed through. While there were some good days, our notebooks are a testament as to how our efficiency tapered down during those months (as in, I think we notebooked thrice in March and twice in April). Oops. 

 So what did I learn from this past school year?  That freedom feels good.  In the past, I was under so much bondage, always feeling defeated, thinking my children were getting a sub-par academic experience because of the large family dynamic and my lack of conviction to check off the list.  I had to let that go. I am actually still working on it and probably will continue to.  I learned to view experiences as education, and when that light went on, it became addictive; wanting them to taste and see the world around them.

I started saying yes. You want to learn how to computer code? Sure. You would like to learn how to sew? No problem.  You're interested in pottery? Good, I need some more bowls. You want to start making bread every week?  YES. With every yes, my home started to get messier and messier. And for that reason, I'm still unsure why we're unschooling. Kidding.  I should also note that we aren't consistently stacking experiences on top of one another. We still want peace in the home and an environment free of too much stress, so there's a lot of dead time between such activities.  

MECHANICS

  • As far as math, the children did math daily and continue to do so throughout the summer.  Carter loves math and is teaching himself Algebra. The others don't care for math but continue to do it as a daily discipline. I may let that go as well.  I haven't quite gained the confidence to but I'm hoping as we continue this journey of alternative learning that we may find more effective and enjoyable ways of putting math into practice.
  • For those of you who are interested in what math curriculum we use, the middle two (grades 2 & 4) still use Math Mammoth. Carter is going to be doing Teaching Textbooks Algebra 1 & 2 this upcoming year and the twins (Kinder) will just have hands on organic math--which means lots of baking, counting pebbles, and playing cards. This is the only curriculum we use. I hope that helps answer that frequent question. :)
  • My middle two dabble in spelling from time to time (not by choice). If I notice that they're not spelling well, we will go over some common words until I feel like they are adequate spellers for their ages and stages. 
  • We still notebook, and I am not willing to let go of that. It's our one way to document our learning and to see improvement in writing, art and penmanship skills.
  • I also added a daily group exercise this year as well. It's been fun pushing my kids physically (for me, not for some of them).  We've watched a few "natural workouts" on Youtube for inspiration. I feel like if a war were to ever break out, the kids would be able to adequately run through the woods discretely. Priorities. 

Next year's plan?  We are going to do the exact same thing!  I thought unschooling would be a one-year experiment, but I believe it is the best fit for us. Looking back, we naturally approached subjects in block formats, spending anywhere from three days to three months on them. The more interested the children were, the more materials and experiences we attained to heighten the process.  Some of the subjects we visited were: rocks and minerals, flight & aerodynamics, classical music history, horse history, environmentalism, Native American history, dogs (of course), geneology, herbal remedies, music theory, ornithology & ecology, math games, clouds, moon phases, formal art study, and currently biomes and ecosystems. 

Towards the end of summer, I am hopefully going to plan out a few blocks in advance, so that I have time to accumulate resources for them and plan coordinating field trips and experiences.  When I started contemplating this upcoming school year, I knew that I would want to make information available to those who are interested in a Charlotte Mason/Unschooling/Block Studies approach as well. This started the thought process of potentially selling my efforts here on this site, which birthed a little side business, Schoolhouse Curiosities!!

I'm fervently working through two manuals right now, my Notebooking Manual and a Getting Started Manual. They are close to being finished and my hope is that they will be ready in time, for those who are interested, to be able to apply such methods in the upcoming school year.  As for the blocks, I will be documenting them as we go through them personally, which means that they will be released all throughout 2017/2018.


Originally, my amazing friend, Jennifer Naraki, and I were going to coordinate some of our block studies and sell them as a unit, but with her recent journey (go here to help her sweet family!), she is obviously spending her time where she should be. I am praying for quick and complete healing for her because she is going to be an incredible teammate one day!


In the meantime, while I still continue to work on the resources, if there are any questions that can be answered in the manuals, please ask. The resources will be geared towards teaching Pre-K-6th grade and I am so excited to share what has worked for our family in great detail. Thank you for walking alongside us in this journey!!

Change, and Letters to my Children

It feels as though the past few years have been somewhat consistent and stable. The kids all in a pleasant stage and considerably predictable. It's been the sweetest of seasons. Of course there have been trials, but all-in-all, it's been a time of rest. Change is in the air, though.

Having them home so much has allowed me to get to know them deeper than I ever would have dreamed, yet with that comes the constant awareness of self. My weaknesses; theirs, it's all heightened when we are in each other's space, all day long. I'm grateful for that time, though. Each time I allow myself to imagine them away at school, I combat it with thoughts of training their hearts and minds and I'm always confirmed that this is the right choice for us, no matter how hard it is.

We have some pre-adolescence stuff starting up.  Without going into detail, because of ages and stages, I will just say that it's new! And it comes with it's fair share of adjustments as anything new does. Change. So much change.

I'm on my knees more than I have been in the past few years. Parenthood will do that to you.  And while I spend time in prayer over my children, the Lord also continues to do a work in me personally.

  Just when you feel like you've cleaned up your messes, he brings awareness to one you had never even noted!  Refining is awesome though, it's growth, and so as my children grow and change, I do too, and we're able to share those intimate conversations together. It's both humbling and powerful all at once.

I haven't really updated much about my melanoma journey. I put something on Instagram, because God be the glory!!  But for those who haven't read it, there is no trace of cancer in my body.  Can you believe that?  Thank you Jesus!

I left a few weeks ago to have a check up and all the tests came back clear, including the melanin test, which I wasn't expecting.  I mean, I was expecting it, because I had all my trust in God, but part of me prepared for "the long road" because sometimes faith can be that way.

We were just so elated and shocked.  Jason cried on his office floor when he heard the news. :)

I cried most of the way home, which was an eight hour drive. :)

We are so grateful. God is good. There is so much that I don't understand but by holding onto his promises, it fuels you up for hard times.  To look back and see his work.

There are a lot of things I'm working on right now.  Being immediately obedient, no matter how humbling the task.  Being slow to anger, using gentleness in my voice.  Removing harshness even though it gets the job done. And control, don't even start me on control!  

This has been a year process at least, when the Lord brought it to my attention how much in my ordinary day I use control.  He will gently tell me as I'm talking with my children "this is a control issue, and there's no need for it right now", yet I still push through. Because I'm a mom and I want them to obey me.  But above all, my heart is for them to love others and understand the heart of God.  And he does not demand obedience.  He hopes that we will choose to obey out of a deep love and understanding for him. And that's the mentality I need to continue to adopt.

I've wanted to write out a few words to my children for quite some time and I just haven't been able to.  I haven't updated anything on them, and this used to be a journal of all their milestones. Having lost my dad at a younger age, I would take any information I can on what he thought of me and hold it so close to my heart, so I'm using that as a motivation to hopefully write more often to them. 

My dearest children:

How I am cherishing this time with you. Sometimes I watch you play together and I am taken back at the beauty of it all. You know how when we hike somewhere new and we reach the top of the mountain and the view leaves us speechless? How we all kind of stand there and praise our Creator because he gave this to us? That's how I feel.  On a daily basis.  The hike up can require effort, patience, small breaks here and there. It can even hurt sometimes.  But when we reach the summit, it all makes sense and the rush of arrival is what makes us feel more alive than ever. I feel like I'm climbing mountains with you on a daily basis.  I feel so alive because of you. My gifts. My treasures.

Carter, you're the beginning of my strength, son.  You have taught me so much about who I am. Not just as a mother.  But who I am. You see right through me to the depths of my soul.  What a remarkable gift that is. Your precision and drive are admirable.  You are so good at anything you do. My favorite thing to do is watch you learn something new. I feel like if I could see inside your brain, it would look like a fine oiled machine, nuts and bolts working swimmingly, everything doing as it must to compute and create.  You are a masterpiece, son.  God has created you to be bold and to do things no other man has done, and you will do it with great fervor, because that's who you are. 

Everett, you peacemaking, worshipping, lover of life!  You wake to meet the birds, tend the fire and start on your work for the day.  You love working outside. The most willing heart you have, and I'm afraid I take advantage of it at times, because it's as if you want to help and please, as if it brings you joy. What is that like, son?  To have a heart that seeks to please and serve others? It's a gift.  A beautiful gift that you give so willingly. Thank you for serving your family so joyfully every day.  I am brought to tears when I see you worship the Lord.  It's powerful, in your gentle worship I see a warrior. A mighty warrior prepared for battle. Because worship and gratefulness will always be your greatest weapon, and you use them so liberally.

Scarlett Hope, you joyful, goofy, and creative girl!  You are so strong.  You have a powerful will that is used in the timeliest of situations.  You discern people and places. You are a social butterfly with girls and delight in spending time with them. Cling to that, my daughter, because good friends will be your sisterhood and will be the greatest support throughout life.  You have become affectionate, entertaining, and very strong in opinion.  Your strength astounds me as a young girl, so petite and beautiful. We are often surprised by witty comments you make, stories you create, or vocabulary words that you use.  You are a force to reckon with, child.  I pray that you use that strength to serve the Lord!

 August, my worshipping, loving, intense boy. You have a heart of worship, raising your hands to the Lord when you feel led to.  A leader. Strong in will, yet a lover of people.  This is the greatest combination, son.  You will be a leader to leaders, it is without question.  You love your mother with an intensity that none of my children have ever had. Embracing me, calling me, "my girl", telling me I'm beautiful, noticing if I put lipstick on or wear a skirt.  When you pray, you pray with purpose. You are a mighty man of God already and I can't wait to see you grow into that even more.

Elias, the sweetest, sensitive, most grateful heart you have.  Always with a song on your lips, a skip in your step, and a smile in your eyes.  You are kind and gentle, yet have the most jovial spirit and you carry that with you wherever you go. You love animals and learning.  You are so sharp, and have a gift of memorization. What a delight you are to teach because you pick it up so quickly and joyfully.  I pray that you always keep that joyful heart, son; joy is something that the world needs so much of and I have no doubt that you will use it to help change hearts for God!

*these images were from a job we had a while ago, the kids are never this dressed up when we go to a river. :)